Charm is simply the art of letting someone know that you feel good about them, without embarrassing them or asking anything of them in return. And this is really attractive. The following checklist should help you accomplish your goals:
– Charm has an ally in eye contact. Never forget to look into someone’s eyes when speaking to them.
– Charming someone includes complimenting them. What you should compliment is relatively easy to figure out, just figure out what would it take to make you feel complimented, and do the same to others.
– Charm has to be sincere. It is strongest when you believe what you’re saying.
– Charm is done pleasantly and lightly.
– The secret to charm is to be selfless. You should not ask for anything, not even feedback.
– Charm isn’t sexual. It’s just warmth.
– Charm is exerting strong confidence.
– Charm at its simplest just says, “You are terrific. Thank you for letting me bask in your glow.”
For a person not to come off as rehearsed, one needs to practice. So where do you start? Any place. Practice on your mother, sister, dog, neighbor, dad, your boss, teacher, friends, the stranger on the street-corner. You will also be amazed at how charming people will be in return. Don’t forget to smile. It makes you look alive.
Set the Bait and Let Her Come to You
For a woman to know that you are interested, she must be aware of it. If she is not, then absolutely nothing will happen. You therefore have to take a risk. This is where the chase begins.
Pick the woman that you are interested in, wherever you may be. May I suggest that you choose your lady early and concentrate only on her the whole time you are there. If you start looking around too much, you will give her the impression that you are looking for anyone to sleep with. After you find her, begin by looking for body language signs, such as eye contact, a smile, hair touching, etc.
If you get these signs from her, you must move quickly. Most men just wait around eyeballing the lady the whole time. By the time they get the nerves to go talk to her, either someone else moved in, or she’ll think you are some perverted stalker because you gawked too much.
Okay, now you made your move. You initiated the conversation. Now how do you make sure you keep the conversation going, and ensure she remains interested? Spoil her with attention by asking her all types of questions regarding her life. No sex-related questions please. Instead, talk about her likes, her education, movies, even the current awkward situation. The important thing is to not mention anything about yourself, unless of course she asks you to. If she does, (this usually means she’s interested) please remember to be brief and move the topic back to focus to her. Once the conversation deepens, it is okay to mention that you’d like to keep in contact with her, and ask for a phone number!
Don’t Just Sit There…Call Her Up!
The first phone call should be at least two days after the encounter. The conversation should revolve around how much fun you had with her, and how impressed you were with her personality. In other words, compliment her like crazy. Make sure that the first phone call does not last more than twenty minutes. It is crucial that you end the first phone call first. If she ends the conversation, the ball is in her court. The conversation should end with you inviting her out for a coffee.
For Future Phone Call Notice: A lot of times when girls call me, I have noticed that when they call they will use the, “Hi. It’s me!” line. Don’t fall for this!
Even though you may have Caller ID or recognize their voice, NEVER acknowledge that you automatically know who it is. It’s a test to see if how whipped you are. So when a girl calls you and says, “Hi. It’s me”, respond with, “Who is this?” This throws her off and keeps her wondering whether she is the only girl you are seeing!
