It’s Now or Never
We all want to avoid hearing those dreaded words, “Let’s just be friends.”
Here is a little rule I have devised. Of course it’s not full-proof (but then again, what is?), but bear this in mind when meeting a new girl: You will have 2 meetings, starting from the moment the two of you meet, to assert that you want to be more than just friends. Now of course you want her to know that you are more than a wimpy nice guy from the very moment you meet her, but always assume that if you do not assert your charm within the first two meetings, she will consider you boyfriend material. If you do not do this within this timeframe, you will have an exponentially harder time convincing her that you are the man for her. So act fast, do what you need to do, and never hear these dreaded words ever again!
The Power of Patience
Most guys fail because they come on entirely too strong, too fast. After a couple of dates, they wanted to marry the person. Though they might have been smooth, they could not hold back their desire for a girlfriend. Women can sense this and recoiled from them instantly.
Women, on initial dates, just simply want to have fun and have a good time. Men can throw too much affection too soon, too fast, and scare the woman off. Women find this as ‘desperation’. It is the ultimate turn-off to them. Patience is NOT inaction nor ‘chickening’ out. Not asking out a woman you’re interested in is not being patient but being stupid. Patience is controlling your eagerness.
Have fun with the woman. Don’t take your outings so seriously. A woman must feel comfortable and secure with you before intimacy can begin. The key to her feeling comfortable and secure is by having fun WITH YOU. Older women (in their 40s, 50s) have told me that one of the most common mistakes guys can make is trying to jump into a strong relationship after only a couple of dates. They said that women simply want to have fun and that if the guy smothers her with affection, she will distance herself. After all, who wants to be with someone that appears eager and desperate?
